Knowing When to End a Conversation - Cut the Conversation Before You Get in Trouble
Knowing when to end a conversation is very important if the communication is starting to turn stale between you and your audience. In fact, there might come a time in your life when knowing when to end a conversation might actually save your relationship with a person, rather than going into big trouble if you drag it out too long.
It is crucial if you want to improve your relationship with anyone. In fact, you can practically boost your interaction with any person by knowing when to end a conversation, in a sense that they will want to continue talking with you to finish what both of you have started.
End It Before You Get Into Trouble
Knowing when to end a conversation requires you to keep track of the topic, as well as keeping a close eye on the emotions of the person you are talking to. In fact, many individuals get into trouble when they don't stop yapping their mouths when they really have to.
For starters, you need to keep in mind that the people you are having a conversation with have their own opinions regarding a certain topic. They might not take your ideas at heart and sometimes get insulted if you continue further.
Observe their facial expressions, as well as their body language so that you will know when to end the conversation there and then -- before the situation gets out of hand.
If they start to yawn, avoid eye contact, get restless, or start moving their hands about, then it is very possible that they no longer find the conversation interesting, so it's a good idea to end the conversation.
To avoid making a fool of yourself when the person you are talking to is getting irritated with the flow of the communication, or when you practically hit a nerve without even realizing its consequence, knowing when to end a conversation could practically save yourself a lot of hurt later.
Frequently Asked Questions
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christians what do you think of this please read ? i no its long?
From SS Officer to Servant of the True God
As told by Gottlieb Bernhardt
I was an officer serving in the German SS, Hitler’s elite guard, at Wewelsburg Castle. In April 1945, I received an order to execute prisoners at a nearby concentration camp. They were Jehovah’s Witnesses. The SS demanded unquestioning obedience to authority. This put me in a moral dilemma. Let me explain why.
I WAS born in 1922 in a village near the Rhine River in Germany. Although the area was strongly Roman Catholic, our family belonged to a Pietist group, a religious movement that originated in the 17th century. In 1933, when I was 11 years old, Hitler came to power in Germany. A few years later, because I excelled academically as well as in sports, I was selected to attend an academy near Marienburg, now Malbork, in Poland. There, hundreds of miles from home, I was immersed in National Socialist, or Nazi, ideology. Students were taught such things as honor, diligence, loyalty, obedience, a sense of duty, and a hallowed respect for our German heritage.
Jehovah’s Witnesses Enter My Life
In late 1944, Himmler assigned me as personal adjutant to an SS general who was commander of the Wewelsburg Castle, a 400-year-old fortress near the city of Paderborn. Himmler planned to make Wewelsburg into a cult center for SS ideology. Near the fortress was a small concentration camp called Niederhagen, which housed a special category of inmates—Jehovah’s Witnesses, also called Bible Students.
An inmate named Ernst Specht came several times to treat my injuries. “Good morning, Sir,” he would say.
“Why do you not say ‘Heil Hitler!’?” I demanded.
He tactfully replied, “Were you raised as a Christian?”
“Yes,” I said. “I had a Pietist upbringing.”
“Then,” he continued, “you will know that the Bible promises salvation (heil) through only one person, Jesus Christ. That is why I cannot say ‘Heil Hitler!’”
Both astonished and impressed, I asked, “Why are you here?”
“I am a Bible Student,” he said.
Conversations with Ernst and another Witness, Erich Nikolaizig, who worked as a hairdresser, touched my heart. Such discussions were forbidden, however, and my commanding officer ordered me to stop. Nevertheless, I felt that if everyone in Germany—a so-called Christian land with millions of church members—had behaved as the Witnesses did, there would have been no war. ‘They ought to be admired, not persecuted,’ I thought.
During that time, a distraught widow phoned to ask for transport for her son, who urgently needed to have his appendix removed. I promptly ordered transport, only to have the order rescinded by my commanding officer. Why? Her husband had been executed as a member of a group that attempted to assassinate Hitler in July 1944. The boy died, and I could do nothing about it. That incident plays on my conscience to this day.
Although I was only in my early 20’s, I began to see life as it really is—not as Nazi propaganda presented it. At the same time, my admiration for Jehovah’s Witnesses and their teachings grew. This, in turn, led to the most dramatic decision of my life.
In April 1945, Allied armies were approaching, and my superior officer fled Wewelsburg. A unit then arrived with orders from Himmler to destroy the fortress and kill the prisoners. The commander of the nearby concentration camp handed me a list of inmates to be executed—all Witnesses. Why? They reportedly knew the location of art treasures plundered by the Third Reich, works of art that had apparently been hidden in some of the buildings. That secret could not get out! So, what should I do about the execution order?
I approached the camp commander and said: “American troops are coming. Don’t you think it would be wise for you and your men to leave?” He needed little persuasion! I then did the unthinkable for an SS officer—I disobeyed an order, and the Witnesses lived.
TruthRevealed
don't forget that many catholics join hitlers forces no witness did-
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How do I deal with racially selective Christian missionaries who confront me every day?
90% of the time as I walk to and from my university campus, one of the same 3 missionaries ask me if I believe in God/would like to consider believing in and loving God, etc. etc. I politely decline. But here is where things get awry:
1. They have followed me for up to 2 blocks in order to approach me, or waited in their car and popped out as I walked by, and ran at me as I was crossing the street.
2. Even when I decline, they find slick ways to twist my words around in order to prolong our conversation, when I've tried to be brief and assertive:
Him: Do you believe in God?
Me: No.
Him: Is there a reason why?
Me: I'm Buddhist.
Him: Oh, well, we don't *only* discuss Jesus. (even though "Jesus" is clearly printed within his name tag)
Me: Then...I'm just not interested.
Him: Hm. Well, have you ever spoken to a missionary before?It doesn't end until I say "I-I'm sorry, but I have to go." and walk away swiftly. So basically I cannot decline unless I am rude (and I think this fact is exploited by them as a persuasion tactic).
3. They ONLY ask Asians. And more specifically, female Asians. Countless times I have seen them walk right past non-Asian people and men, in order to approach me or other female Asians. About the 6th time I was approached by one of these missionaries, I bluntly asked "Is there a reason you ONLY ask East Asian women?" To which he implied that there is no direct correlation (yeah, right), but that my observation was related to the fact that their church was affiliated with an English-learning program for newly-landed immigrants. However, my English is indistinguishable from a native speaker, so I didn't see how his reason was relevant to my question. But I just said "I see." and walked away.
I have reason to believe that they are asserting their powers of gender and race over Asian women to convert them to Christianity, which (even though I'm not a believer) seems so ironic and disrespectful to Christianity.And for all the above reasons, I feel somewhat harassed by these missionaries. I can tolerate it from time to time, but it happens almost every day, in this manner, from the same three men. I can keep saying no and running away, but it's something no one should have to go through. What should I do?
I've also tried providing them with longer answers such as "I have read parts of the Bible and studied Christianity, but I don't think it's right for me, and I've decided on my beliefs." But when I've done this, they don't seem to be listening. They see it as an opportunity to invite me to have a discussion.
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It's unfortunate that they have chosen to harass people. It is sometimes the case that these types of groups focus on people who are vulnerable as obviously it opens the door a bit for them so to speak.Treat them as you would a telemarketer. Simply say, "I don't want to speak to you." or "No, thank you." and walk away.
You aren't being rude, you're just refusing to engage in a dialogue that you have no responsibility whatsoever to engage in.
If you are concerned about others being victimized then by all means, discuss this with your peers and university staff. It may also be possible to involve the police.
edit: I really wouldn't suggest trying to engage them in any way. You don't owe them a conversation or anything but a polite refusal, if that.
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